As my significant other was scoffing at my insistence that it’s tough for women to find good men once they’re over age 45 much less 50, I reminded him that I possess plenty of experience in matters of Second Life Socializing.
First, there is the fact that before meeting him, I spent nearly seven years on and off dating sites – and on two continents. In the US, I was likely to hear from men 10 to 20 years older.
The person who makes the first move is always at a slight disadvantage — even if the other person accepts, the pursuer may be unsure whether he’s desired as much as he wants to be desired.
It seems to me that lots of middle aged women get divorced and stay single. And, older men have interest but that isn’t really fair either. I would like to know your thoughts on the likelihood of 50 year old women finding a second life partner. It’s really funny that I would get this email from you, wondering about dating over 50. Because I’m turning 50 in 6 months, and I’m recently single again. I have had some issues while shopping for clothes in recent years, because all the clothing out there either seems too young or too old for me. again.” The slash between happiness and marriage clearly indicates that you equate happiness and marriage, and that’s something I definitely don’t do. I would ultimately like to be married again (I think) but anyone who reads this blog should know by now that I don’t feel marriage brings happiness unless you wait for the right person and/or the right time.
I might just be feeling sorry for myself but it seems to me that a 50ish woman is somewhere in no-man’s land for a future relationship. So, I guess what I’m trying to say in response to your asking my thoughts on the likelihood of a 50 year old woman finding a second life partner is: I HAVE NO CLUE, I’ll let you know when I find out? Perhaps this same attitude applies when it comes to dating. I equate happiness with: children, family, career, fun and surrounding myself with people I love and enjoy, whether that involves romantic love or not. The last thing I will tell you to do is to slow down and don’t panic.
Believing when the time is right, a good guy will just show up in your life.
Wouldn't it be awesome if finding a good guy really happened this way? But you can meet a great man who is perfect for you.